Hello Friends,
I’m excited to share the latest episode of our podcast with you.I had an illuminating conversation with the brilliant Dr. Nicole LePera, known to many as the Holistic Psychologist. We talked about her new book, “How to Be the Love You Seek,” unpacking some transformative and sometimes controversial ideas about relationships, personal growth, and therapy.
Dr. LePera's journey is a fascinating one. Despite societal success, she felt unfulfilled( no surprise there) and sought alternative healing methods outside traditional psychotherapy.
We discussed the significance of therapists being open about their own life experiences to foster deeper connections with their clients, which I personally think is crucial to build trust.She beautifully challenged the notion of a static self, emphasizing that personal growth and self-discovery are fluid and ongoing processes. Our childhood experiences, she explained, play a crucial role in shaping our sense of worth and the conditioned beliefs and behaviors we carry into adulthood.
One of the most profound parts of our conversation was about unconditional love and its impact on self-worth and acceptance. Dr. LePera shared her experiences in a polyamorous relationship, highlighting the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in both personal and professional spheres. We also touched on the privilege and accessibility issues within the wellness industry and the value of small, consistent practices for personal growth. Another key topic was the role of technology in providing support and connection, especially for those who lack access to in-person communities.
Dr. LePera also opened up about the backlash she faced for challenging traditional psychology and the internal conflict of handling negative feedback. We explored the importance of integrating new perspectives, acknowledging unconscious biases, and how individual change can positively impact future generations.
This episode is full of insights and personal stories that I hope will resonate with you deeply.
Keep having meaningful conversations….
Love,
Amanda X
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IN THIS EPISODE:
[03:53] Dr. LePera and Amanda discuss the impact of childhood experiences on compromising in relationships and the development of conditioned selves.
[12:38] Dr. LePera shares her personal journey, including her emotional breakdown and spiritual awakening, and the evolution of her therapeutic approach.
[18:04] Amanda shares her experience with therapists and the importance of therapists sharing their own lived experiences for building trust and relatability.
[20:41] Dr. LePera's decision to go public about her personal life and the importance of being authentic.
[34:09] The importance of making mental health resources accessible, including low-cost and time-efficient practices.
[43:54] Dr. LePera addresses the feedback she received, particularly from women of color, and the challenges of understanding differing perceptions.
[47:09] The discussion centers around the timing of Dr. LePera's growth during the COVID lockdown and BLM movement, leading to personal transformation and confidence.
[53:52] Dr. LePera discusses the opportunity to unlearn adapted behaviors, embrace wholeness, and create safe, supportive relationships.
[56:52] The topic covers the impact of personal healing on future generations through epigenetics, challenging old beliefs about genetic determinism.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Personal growth is ongoing and often needs therapy. Dr. LePera stresses therapy's role in healing past traumas, advocating for personalized approaches. Authenticity and vulnerability in therapy are key to confronting one's true self and fostering genuine growth.
Childhood experiences significantly shape self-worth. Dr. LePera explains how early events and relationships impact adult behaviors and self-perception. Addressing these through therapy can lead to profound personal transformation and better self-esteem.
The wellness industry is criticized for its inaccessibility and privilege. Dr. LePera calls for more inclusive mental health resources and highlights technology's role in bridging gaps, providing support to those excluded from traditional wellness practices.
More from Dr. Nicole LePera:
Instagram @the.holistic.psychologist
LinkedIn - Dr. Nicole LePera
Book - How To Be The Love You Seek
Amazon Books Page - Dr. Nicole LePera
Harper Collins - Dr. Nicole LePera
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